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Salaams and Good Morning !
Here is your daily dose of Wisdom for Living Your Best Self!
This week, continue our conversation on challenging unhelpful, negative or distorted thinking.
We have talked about how valuable it can be to consult with a friend when our negative thoughts are getting the best of us.
Sometimes, however, such a friend is not at hand, for whatever reason. What do we do then?
We can access our own inner wisdom by asking ourselves: what would we tell a friend or a younger sibling in this situation?
Many of us are very good advice-givers. Superb advice-givers, in fact.
When someone who is emotionally charged or triggered comes to us, we can look at the situation without the emotional triggers and come up with a balanced perspective. We can see the pros and cons of thinking this way and come up with helpful suggestions on how to combat this negative perspective (especially if we have been reading Daily Wisdom regularly ;) )
So while we have all inner knowledge, it can be hard to apply it to our own situation – unless we become intentional about it.
So be a good friend to yourself. And to your relationships.
And ask yourself what advice would you give a friend who was in this situation.
What advice would you give them to counteract this thought process? What is the evidence and the situations that they may be overlooking to keep them locked in this thinking loop? How can they live up to their best selves, how can they act based on their core values rather than react from anger or upset in the moment?
Getting into dialogue with ourselves can be REALLY helpful to gain a fresh perspective on any situation.
Have you come up with a whole lot of really good advice?
Great! Now it is up to you to follow your own best advice!
Wishing you a day full of positivity, purpose and peace.
Warm blessings
Marzia
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for a list of recommended books on building your emotional intelligence
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Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D Burns, MD
The good news is that anxiety, guilt, pessimism, procrastination, low self-esteem, and other "black holes" of depression can be cured without drugs. In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life.
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Dr. Daniel Goleman.
Touching on psychology and neuroscience, the expert on brain and behavioral sciences, Dr. Goleman explains the crucial skills for success offered by emotional intelligence that can determine your success in relationships and work and may impact your overall health.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry, Jean Greaves, and Patrick M. Lencioni.
One of the most famous on this topic, this book is focused more on ways to use EQ to improve your life. You’ll find a step-by-step program for increasing your emotional intelligence that focuses on four core skills: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management, along with activities that will help you boost each of these areas.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.
The classic on self-growth, this book remains a top seller and go-to for millions around the world. Taking a less conventional approach to the subject, he isn’t focused on emotional intelligence per se, but rather presents a guide for anyone looking to better understand and control their emotions. The seven habits described in his book all require
an awareness and control of emotional intelligence while teaching people how to become more proactive, a big-picture thinker, manage various interaction while building more effective communication.
The Language of Emotional Intelligence: The Five Essential Tools for Building Powerful and Effective Relationshipsby Jeanne Segal.
A great resource for finding information on using emotional intelligence to build better relationships with just about everyone in your life. Segal lays out a simple step-by-step program on how to use five basic tools of emotional intelligence to enhance your relationships through better communication, reading non-verbal cues, and gaining skills at diffusing arguments and conflicts before they get out of hand.
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